However, honesty towards your parents and being open is key, I can’t stress how vital this is. Always consider them in your decisions despite disagreements. You will face many trials and tribulations on your journey to a mixed marriage, so make sure you have enough patience and understanding.
It goes without saying, before you decide to break the big bombshell to your family on marriage on who you would like to marry, make sure you are certain as can be about the person. Go through what is important to you in life – likes, dislikes, values, ambitions. Manage your expectations going into marriage, as fundamentally each marriage is a partnership. So it’s about compromise.
For us, it’s important to represent the positives of mixed marriages. Embracing both cultures is of great significance in our home – with two powerhouse cultures for food, how could we not!? There’s never a dull moment in the Blackistani kitchen. I cook Pakistani dishes for my in-laws and they love it. Additionally I’ve been taught how to make Jamaican food by my husband’s amazing grandmother as well, which led to my mum discovering fried plantain!
Life really is a nonstop big party. Although we are both Muslim, my husband’s side of the family are Christian so they cook us halal Christmas dinner and buy presents for the kids. During Ramadan, my family’s husband fast, celebrate Eid and we visit the mosque together, so it all works so well!
Much love Asiyah
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